Friday, July 30, 2010

I had another one - what I call a "story dream."  I sometimes get these dreams that stretch out into this perfect story, almost like I'm watching a movie.  Then, they dominate my thoughts until I write them down.  Most of the time I just write in my journal the general outline, which helps.  At least I am able to dwell on something else.  It has been a source of a lot of wondering though.

I used to think I was a good writer.  Back in junior high and high school, I would feel words pour onto a page, whether I was writing an essay, a story, or a poem.  It was enough to get me good grades on most of the writing I did.  But, then harsh life interrupted and my confidence in my ability to write was squelched.  I now write carefully, scrutinizing every sentence, feeling like I can never quite get what I want to say across.  I have wondered if writing was really a gift I've been given or if it was just fanciful thinking.  

Then, the dreams begin.  I wonder whether it's just my imagination finding an outlet, or whether this is some sort of "nudge" from a higher power telling me to start writing again.  At once, I'm ashamed.  What makes me think I could actually write something that could even compare to the writers I admire and whose words I hungrily devour on a regular basis?  There's no way my story could be that good, and I'm sure nobody would read it.  But... then enters the doubt.  Is it real lack of talent that is causing me to dismiss these opportunities as flights of fancy, or is it lingering humiliation from that experience?  And thus it goes, in endless circles, until I am utterly exhausted.  I have often come to the conclusion that the only way I'll know for sure is to really start writing and see where it leads.  Of course, my emotions seem to shrink from the idea; what if I fail?  

And therein lies the crux of it all.  Fear of failure.  It haunts me day and night, is the shadow behind every door.  It never leaves, never rests, and I cannot seem to rid myself of it.  If I can overcome this fear, I believe I could do anything, even write.  Perhaps I just need a bit more strength.  A little more courage.  Some hope.  I'm slowly gathering it, and eventually it will all come bursting out and then I'll see where I'm lead next...

Wednesday, July 7, 2010

Just call me a chicken...

a fraidy cat, a wuss.  I thought I'd gotten past this, at least to a point where I could function.  But, apparently, I am still petrified of needles.  Specifically needles going into things like my mouth.  I had a dentist appointment today to fix the last of my many problems for the moment, and was feeling relieved to get it over with.  I asked for the laughing gas, as usual, because it makes me not care that a very long and very sharp needle is going to be shoved into my mouth.  As an afterthought, I mentioned I'm pregnant - which makes the laughing gas a no-go.  Ack!  "I can handle this," I thought.  " I just won't look.  It works when they take my blood, and soon it will all be over."  I get reclined and ready to go, but fatally, tragically, I open my eyes at exactly the wrong moment.  I see the long, pointed end of the needle rapidly descending towards me and completely freak out, shaking, crying, and repeating over and over "I can't do it."  Luckily, I have an amazing dentist (who has been around many pregnant women before, he says) who quickly took the needle out of the room and handed me a few tissues so I could mop up my face.  We discussed some options, and found a way to get the necessary work done without having to use a needle to numb me.  

I publicly broke down today.  I cried in front of people whose names I don't know and who I don't know anything about.  And, guess what:  I'm still alive.  I always thought that public embarrassment like that would be the end of me, but it wasn't.  I'm not going to be afraid to go in that office again because I know that although I may not be "normal," I'm special.  I'm an amazing person who just happens to have a phobia of needles.  I coped.  I went home, hugged my baby, ate a huge amount of banana chips, grapes, and donut holes, and I coped.  I know that somehow I will get through what I need to.  Not because I'm brave, or strong, but because I'm human.  I am built to cope and move on.  It's kind of freeing, to know that I can get past whatever goes on with me.  And the adventure continues.